The most read newspaper article of 2016 was not anything political or about the election,
it was Alain de Botton's NYT article "Why you will marry the wrong person"
Krista Tippett has a discussion wth Alain in this podcast that is brilliant, funny and insightful.
I really encourage everyone in a relationship, or hoping to be in a relationship, to listen and learn.
My cheat sheet of insights:
+ we are all broken, and need to approach the other with that understanding
+ we naturally give children more benefit of the doubt -when one is fussy or says "I hate you", we ask ourselves if they are hungry or tired or had a bad day. We need to approach our partner the same way
+We are all hard to live with (but most of us don't realize it)
+the mundane is the reality of lived love - who cleans the toilet is a service of love
+self-righteousness is an enemy of love.