Being a pastor is sometimes extremely lonely.
You are taught in seminary:
Don't bring your life into the pulpit (unless its a cute hokey story)
Don't show that you are struggling
Don't ask for help, prayers or support --
Pastors give those things, you don't ask for them.
The congregation needs to know you are strong
That you can be leaned on
That your family is a shining example of perfect love
That you have it all together
That you always know where God is and what God is saying
That you are there for them - the congregation - all the time.
This is what you are taught to believe it means to be a pastor.